My husband and I have a great relationship. I'm sexually comfortable with him, so I feel we can do anything together. One day he confided his greatest fantasy is to be with two women.

 At first I was open to the idea because it turned me on. Later, after the drinks wore off and some soul searching, I came to the realization that that is not what I stand for and it breaks our commitments as husband and wife. Yes, I was listening to you Dr.Ruth!

I want to satsify his desires, so my ideas are:

-I've thought about hiring a stripper and dancing with her while he watched. Would this be a good alternative to having a threesome?

-Also, I could blindfold him and pretend to have another girl in the room.

-We could also watch pornos together.

Would these things quench his thirst or would he want a threesome even more?

Revealing fantasies is always dangerous, as I’ve said again and again and again. Now your entire relationship is somewhat jeopardized. I’m not saying that it is a serious problem in your case, but it could become one if you both let it get out of hand. What you must do, today, is to take him aside, say “Honey, remember that conversation we had about a threesome. Well, I guess I was a little drunk that night, but I’ve reconsidered it and it’s something that I absolutely don’t want to do.” Now maybe he was a little drunk too and regrets opening his mouth. But whatever he feels, you have to tell him you’re not doing this and you mustn’t feel guilty about it. It was a stupid idea and needs to be put off the table.

As to what else you could do to spice up your sex life, my advice is not to relate it to this threesome idea. Steer his thoughts elsewhere. Exactly what would be best I can’t tell you, but if you put your imagination to work I’m sure you’ll come up with something that will be sexy but won’t put your relationship in jeopardy.