But boy did this man turn me on like crazy. So my question is: we are meeting again and have plans for the weekend, so will it be okay if I let go and have sex with him then?

My answer has to be no, and the main reason has to do with sexually transmitted diseases. Condoms protect against some of these diseases, but that’s assuming the condom doesn’t break or fall off. But condoms don’t offer full protection, even if it stays in place, against an STD like herpes, which can be transmitted from a patch on the skin of the thigh, for example. And since most people who have herpes don’t know it, even if he swears that he’s disease free, that doesn’t guarantee that he is. (And, of course, that goes for you too. You might think you’re disease-free and not be.) So for me to give you a responsible answer, it has to be that you should wait to have sex until you’ve both been tested and the results come back negative. (And make sure that herpes is on the list of the diseases being tested.)

But let’s put aside the disease issue for the time being. Then the question is: should you have sex with someone just because you both have the hots for each other? What I would want to know is whether this was just a sexual attraction or is there more to the relationship. If it’s just sexual, then the risks have to be put back into the equation, because is a great sexual episode really worth the potential negative consequences? I don’t believe so. However if you believe the relationship has the potential into developing into a romance, and if you believe that having sex now would further that, rather than lead him to dump you as just another conquest, then the answer is maybe, and only you can decide. While I don’t want to make you afraid of sex, I also don’t want the power of lust, which can be very strong, to lead you into making the wrong decision.